In order to be as prepared as we can, to take care of our little guy, we have been reading and listening and watching and thinking and talking about all the different kinds of issues the children and parents of international adoption come across. I am sure there as just as many and complex issues to domestic adoption, but that isn't the room we are standing in, and so we will focus on what is known specifically about international adoption. Chinese International Adoption, to be precise. And also Chinese Toddler Adoption. There is a lot to learn.
Ten years ago we didn't have so many different avenues, experts, groups and conversations as we are finding today. We thought we were prepared. We did some reading. We weren't prepared. Plain and simple. If you know our little family than you know how much we lucked out. Still, there were some pretty tough months at first. Re-acquainting ourselves to the considerations of international adoption, and learning about the specific consideration of adopting a toddler, has reminded us of some of the things we experienced those first few hours, days, and months with our daughter, plus a whole lot more.
We didn't do such a great job on "educating"our family and friends about the journey we were embarking on ten years ago. We tried to explain it, but we didn't know exactly what we were explaining, and so that didn't work so well. I think a lot of people believed we didn't want to share and that we were over exaggerating when we spoke about attachment, etc.
We plan on asking our family and friends to join us, via blog, when we travel to meet our son and hope we can share those amazing and exciting days as we become a family of four.
So, we are posting some essays regarding some of the issues that we *may* be working with. *May be working with, the emphasis on *may*. Because any and all of the issues we are trying to coalesce into knowledge in our brains may or may not be something we need to work out. Nothing is black and white, all or nothing, and most likely the issues we will face will fall into a kind of spectrum. We can only prepare ourselves the best we can and help our family and friends understand as we learn as much as we can about the who, what, how, where, when and why of our littlest potato....
So we can love our son the best we can until he loves us back.
Here is a link to that explains things well...
http://www.lovewithoutboundaries.com/adoption/realistic-expectations/
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